Yelling Box

Sometimes in life you just want a yelling box…You know when you have had a tough week at work, maybe your people are driving you bananas or it has been one crap storm after the other.  What is a yelling box, you ask? Please allow me to paint a picture.

A yelling box could be one of the greatest inventions of all time. This is a box made to size that is padded, soundproof and probably not clear. I say not clear b/c maybe you will be looking ugly when you yell…or making obscene gestures or perhaps you just don’t want anyone to see you flinging your arms around like a crazy person….wait…that is what i look like when i’m mad. My yelling box would be a beautiful wooden box that my brother would make-he is a lovely wood smith? wood maker?  Anyways, he can make all kinds of crap and its awesome-check him out on facebook.  But it would probably be in the cherry family, with a cute door and probably a bit like a curvy wardrobe.

The purpose of this box would be for me to step in and let it out.  sometimes, i get so frustrated at either myself or someone or something going on around me.  i get this tense knot in my right shoulder and i could either scream or cry.  I try to hold it in b/c i don’t like me when i’m mad.  i like me when i’m happy, funny and laughing. 

i think  boxes could probably save alot of marriages and relationships.  think about it, you could go in and rip your significant other or friend a new one-say all the things you really wouldn’t want to say to hurt their feelings (or maybe you would, who knows) and then step out of it feeling refreshed and violence free….i may be onto something here….the possibilities are endless:

Teachers: OH CRAP! THESE KIDS ACT LIKE THEY AIN’T GOT NO KIND OF SENSE! DID YOU EVEN DO YOUR HOMEWORK? OH, YOU GOT LOST GOING TO THE BATHROOM….UUUUUUGGGGGGGHHHHHHH

Wife/Husband: DON’T YOU DARE SAY, “FINE” B/C I KNOW IT’S NOT! WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON’T LIKE MY MOTHER? OH, NO…HE IS YOUR SON-YOU GO TO THE POLICE STATION.

Co-Workers- OH, SURE…JUST TAKE ALL THE CREDIT WHILE I DO ALL THE WORK….YES, I HAVE PLANS FOR THE WEEKEND BUT SURE…I’LL COME IN AND DO YOUR JOB…

man…i don’t even fit all of those categories and i feel better….so, what about you? what is your yelling box?

xoxo,

beanie.

Life Quotes…What kind of broad are ya?

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”  ―    Mae West

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”  ―    Marilyn Monroe

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”  ―    J.K. Rowling,    Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone

I love quotes…so much so that I have a whole board dedicated to them on pinterest…yeah…that means it is major! But seriously, I do love them.  I think the ones I love most tend to not necessarily be from a specific topic such as love, life or the pursuit of happiness but from people that i feel like really made a dent in culture or society.  Take the 3 quotes above….Mae West was one h*ll of a cool lady who, in her time, rocked the boat and was considered provocative and I guess she was. Marilyn was such a sex symbol and J.K. got kids to put down their Xbox controllers and read a book. 

Now, I don’t select them because they are women…I honestly tend to lean more toward male wisdom (another post for another day) but I choose them because I think these quotes in particular are kind of powerful and I’ll explain why…

I think alot of us go through life just by going through the motions.  We go to school to get a job after college….I’m not sure that alot of us know what our passions are…I didn’t for a while and maybe still don’t all the time know what they are.  Mae’s quote makes me realize the weight of our lives.  Sometimes all I can want is a quiet life where everything is safe and planned out but then the core of me screams, “Heck no! Get out there and make some waves in a good way!” I want to look back on my life and tell my grandkids (ya, know if i have any) that sometimes life isn’t about doing what is safe or controlled…some of the best lessons (and maybe stories)  in my life are from times where I just kinda threw caution to the wind and went with it.  When my neice was going to college I wrote her a card that I later found out she kept.  In it I said, “These are some of the best times of your life….make mistakes, question everything but look for the answers in solid places and people…get a tattoo, pierce something (she has done both)…whatever! just find yourself.”  Make your life count…..do it right….leave a legacy no matter how small.

Marilyn-listen…she had issues but she was kinda cool. I know some of it was tragic and such but she makes a good point in the quote I have for her.  The reason I love this one so much is because the majority of us want to be loved, accepted and appreciated.  Depending on how twisted your upbringing was, you have different ideas on how that looks.  I think for me, I tend to have a hard time believing someone could love my emotional mess.  My life wasn’t perfect, it was healthy in alot of ways but it wasn’t all bad either.  I struggle with feeling like I need to be perfect for my future husband….the perfect homemaker, wife, friend, lover, mother whatever it is….I tend to hid the dark and twisty times I go thru b/c some how I have it in my brain that I’m not allowed to have those times.  I’m really hard on myself.  I re-read this quote over and over b/c it is a good reminder to me that sometimes I’m all of those things and someone out there is going to figure it out sooner or later so he better be able to handle it 🙂  because if he can’t-he ain’t worth it!

Lastly, don’t dwell on dreams…don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying don’t dream. You HAVE to have dreams to work toward but don’t let them be just that-dreams…make them your reality!  I’m slowly getting there with some dreams I don’t think will ever come true and they won’t as long as I think that way!  Like Maya Angelou said, “Grab life by the collar and say LET’S DO THIS!”

What are your life quotes? What inspires you? Who do you read to light a fire under your rear?

xoxo,

beanie.

 

What was I saying?…..

Hello friends….how is everyone doing?  as you can see, i’ve non-committedly (<- apparently not a real word) started a blog.  i’d love to be able to tell  you this blog would be like perfect and about issues that matter…and sometimes it will be-but the honest truth is…..i’m not sure what it will consist of on a regular basis…if i had to guess i’d say random things.

that’s right-random.things.  i imagine it comes from the fact that i’m kind of all over the board.  oh, don’t get me wrong-i fit the typical “girl” stuff like makeup (i have too much), i do hair/nails, i love romantic comedies and heartfelt books & movies-like the notebook or say anything (which i’ll probably do a blog about soon) BUT i also love things like spy movies and UFC (ok…ok…sometimes just for the cute boys).

also, i’ll warn you out the gate that i can kinda get off track…i tend to write things like i tell stories-with a fair amount of details and an illustration or two to prove my point. plus, i just come from a long line of talkers….we’re irish-we got alot to say and its probably a bit loud when we do.  my family is irish, german, scottish and english—-we couldn’t be more white, angry or drunk 🙂

So there you go, a short into to what is sure to be a blog on everything from makeup, movie and pinterest to UFC and spy movies.  good luck.

beanie.